Whether your forties are on the horizon or you are knee-deep into them, you can expect to experience some changes. You will likely encounter a few creaking joints, maybe an increase in forgetfulness, and certainly a few strands of gray with some noticeable wrinkles.
However, that’s not to say it’s all downhill. In fact, you will notice a boost in confidence, a slight change in your priorities for the better, and a fading of your inhibitions along with the tolerance for toxic relationships. You will gain a better sense of yourself. And with that, you are transformed.
Welcome to the 40 Club!
I wasn’t quite prepared for the life after 40. My husband tried to prepare me. Others warned me. But I didn’t dare listen. I never had to worry about my food choices or stretch before working out. I had no real signs of facial lines nor graying. I could get through my days with less than six hours of sleep. I felt fine the day after having that extra glass of wine.
I marched straight into my forties with optimism. I believed I would remain the same gal as I was yesterday, just a year older. And I was right, that first year in my forties was glorious. I never felt better.
Then, one day like a hot flash (literally!), I began to feel the effects of aging. My metabolism began to slow down. I couldn’t lose the weight I had gained from my second pregnancy, no matter how hard I tried. I was encountering chronic lower back pain, maybe from carrying my 20 pound toddler, I don’t know. I had reoccurring shin splints after runs, a sore knee, and plenty of fatigue to go around. My forties was kicking my bum. Not to mention, I had noticeable gray hairs appearing and more wrinkles than I could count.
What was happening to me? Where did my youth go?
I told myself not to fret. Everyone ages. That’s no surprise. I may not be able to stop the aging process, but I could slow it down. I began to use anti-aging serums and moisturizers. I colored my hair to hide the gray. I stepped up my workouts and increased the frequency. I ate healthier meals. I decided to take charge of the matter and began researching the truths about turning 40 and how to embrace the changes with grace.
I am now forty-three, and I can honestly say I feel good in my own skin. I am confident in my decision making. I have an amazing support system. I exercise regularly, drink plenty of water, and rest as often as possible.
The most important thing I learned over the past few years is to be kinder to myself. Although my body is not exactly how I want it to look and I have body aches every once in awhile, I am grateful for my health and for my life. I can get out of bed every morning and keep up with my boys who are five and two years old.
We are all in the aging process together. Am I right? Let’s make the best of it!
