Sleep Training: A Nap Battle from Baby’s Perspective

New moms usually have one or two (or 57 million) things they stress and obsess over during the last trimester and the first three months of life with a newborn. For me, my No. 1 obsession was sleep. Not necessarily how much of it I was missing out on, but rather how ISleep Training: a Nap Battle from Baby's Perspective | Kansas City Moms Blog would help my baby get the sleep he needed.

So, I read. A LOT.

I started with On Becoming Babywise, by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam, despite the controversy surrounding it. The controversy didn’t bother me much once I realized two important things:

  1. The book had been edited and revised since its initial criticisms.
  2. Whether an author’s advice is solidly praised or scrupulously questioned, I will always retain my own common sense, judgment, and mommy instinct when reading about any topic – especially when it comes to my own children.

I learned a lot from Babywise. First of all, the basic Eat-Play-Sleep schedule became the framework for Oliver’s days. And secondly, I heeded the advice of putting him down to sleep while drowsy, but still awake. Not gonna lie: Oliver didn’t mind this one bit. And that made life VERY easy for me as a new mom on a quest to get my brand new baby on some semblance of a schedule. (My apologies to the other 99.9% of women out there with babies who actually cry. Don’t hate me.)

Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth was one of my other books of choice. From this one, we took away the ideas of motionless sleep and the overarching theme of respecting your baby’s need to sleep. We really took that last one to heart. I can’t tell you how many family parties were moved on account of Oliver’s nap schedule or how many invitations we passed up out of respect for his sleep needs. For us, it was worth every bit of effort. Even now, at 2.5 years old, I see the difference in Oliver’s emotional stability when we start to let the sleep priorities slip. (Not that toddlers are really known for emotional stability, but you get the point.)

Sleep Training: a Nap Battle from Baby's Perspective | Kansas City Moms Blog
Secrets of the Baby Whisperer is just one best-selling book on the topic of infant and toddler sleep and routines.

The third book I consulted in my quest to know everything-there-is-to-know-about-babies-and-sleep was Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg and Melinda Blau. I spent more time on Baby Whisperer forums than I did in the actual book. I like that its authors suggest establishing a routine similar to Babywise, but that they put more emphasis on responding to the unique cues of your baby. It suggests more of a gentle approach in molding a routine: A true combination schedule (a mix between parent-led and baby-led routines).

So there I was, well-equipped with both knowledge and an incredibly easy, sleep-loving baby. I was well on my way when suddenly, at just three days shy of the 3 month mark, the 45-minute nap intruder reared its ugly head. And thus began a series of nap battles between mommy and Oliver.

Below is the play-by-play of one of the earliest (and quickest) of our many Nap Battles in the long, strategic war of 3-5-7 minute Timed Interval Sleep Training. I was intrigued by the nap-fighting strategies of my immobile, yet willful baby boy, so I spent a few minutes capturing his battle tactics on video one day.

I now present to you the first-person perspective of Commanding Officer Oliver, 3 months old, entering into battle, fully armed with an arsenal of strategies.

9:58 a.m., April 3

Morning Nap Approaches.

10:00:00 I will first prove my alertness to my opponent by flailing madly for 10 seconds immediately upon being placed in bed.
10:00:10 …No response from mom opponent…
10:00:18 Implementing Strategic Move #2: Start babbling. Conversation may just distract her enough to make her forget this crazy priority of hers.
10:00:48 She’s leaving! Think quick: Hug her hand! Sweetly. Yes, as sweetly as humanly possible. Just.Like.That. Surely this will do the trick.
10:01:09 She’s leaving. Begin complaining.
10:01:33 Protest slightly louder.
10:01:58 No! Don’t give in to the slow blinks! Fight it, man. Fight!
10:02:04 Look away from my opponent; I must ponder my next strategy in seclusion.
10:02:13 Maybe a smile? Simple, yet powerful.
10:02:15 Checking for the result… nada. Ineffective. Her defenses are strong today.
10:02:26 Intimidation time. Ready, set, scowl!
10:02:30 Hmmm… back to complaining again. I really need some new material.
10:02:41 No! Do.Not.Rub.Eyes! Resist the urge!
10:03:03 Drift off to sleep, zzzz
10:03:06 Jerk awake just seconds after drifting off to sleep. NOOOO!!!! What was I thinking!?
10:03:19 Drift off again, dreaming of chewing cud like a cow…
10:03:19-10:03:25 Flail arms like windmills to wake back up! Don’t give in!!!!
10:03:44 Can’t.Fight.It…. Anymore. Sigh.
10:03:50 Oops. Forgot to breathe. Wake up and swallow some drool.
10:03:55 Ok. Time to turn on the charm. Smiles will work for sure this time.
10:04:01 Yikes. Too much effort. I hope no one heard that; toots are definitely not charming.
10:04:08 This is awkwaaaard… think quick. I know! Smile to make mom forget the toot.
10:04:16 Exasperation. I give up. Naptime it is. Mom, you may have won this battle… but the war rages on!
Amber loves jellybeans, morning snuggles, and new adventures. Personality tests peg her as 93% extroverted. She loves to write, but most of the time, you’ll find her behind her camera lens. Amber left her teaching position in 2016 to turn her passion into a full time photography career. She now spends time photographing homes for real estate agents, updating headshots, freelancing for local magazines, and creating branding imagery for businesses by capturing their spaces, products, people, and processes. She also does portrait sessions for families, children, and high school seniors. Amber recently got married in a small pandemic friendly wedding. As mama to one and stepmama to four, she thrives on the happy chaos of a large, blended family. Amber lives with both Cystic Fibrosis and CF Related Diabetes and thanks God daily for His blessings and the medical advances that continue to keep her as healthy as possible.