Managing My Son’s Migraines

The headaches started the summer before kindergarten. I blamed it on too much activity in the blazing August sun.

The headaches continued into the first few months of kindergarten. I was coming to pick him up from school at least once a week, whisking him away to the dark of his bedroom with a dose of Ibuprofen. In 20-30 minutes, he’d be bouncing around ready to play. I blamed it on the transition that all kids cope with when starting real school.

But the headaches kept coming. Several times a week and increasing in intensity to the point of vomiting.

After mentioning it to our pediatrician during this well visit, we set up an appointment with Children’s Mercy Neurology Department. We began to track his headaches, suspected triggers and symptoms.

It wasn’t unfamiliar to me, though. I see a neurologist every six months and have suffered from chronic migraines since I was a pre-teen. So does my mom, and her mom and likely many moms before them.

People often say “Oh, this is giving me a migraine” without truly understanding the condition. Migraine is a neurological condition often characterized by intense, debilitating headaches. They can also cause nausea, vomiting, slurred speech, numbness, tingling, neck pain, auras and sensitivity to light and sound.

According to the American Migraine Foundation, 8 percent of children suffer from disabling migraine. For Henry and most boys, migraines often begin around age 5 and hopefully, stop around puberty. For the girls, migraine onset is often puberty and they lessen or stop by menopause (Oh, lucky us!). Normally, migraines are managed by the pediatrician but in Henry’s case, he needs more intense interventions and monitoring.

We see his neurologist at Children’s Mercy every 3-6 months. He’s 9 now, and we’ve moved far beyond Ibuprofen that once did the trick. He takes several preventative supplements (iron, magnesium and Vitamin D) and has a cocktail of rescue meds that are constantly being tweaked to find the right mix to relieve his pain. His neurologist reviews his medicines, completes routine neurological tests (even during his telehealth appointments), and answers any of our questions.

Henry completing neurological tests during a neurology telehealth appointment.

Aside from having the right combo of medication, learning about his own body has been key to managing his migraines. That also comes with an education in self advocacy.

It is hard to explain (and I find myself having to do so over and over) that the onset of a migraine often can’t been seen on a child’s face. Sometimes the first signs aren’t even in his head. It’s also hard to explain that if the meds aren’t taken immediately, the migraine runs wild and can go on for DAYS. Each year, we coach his teachers, camp counselors or other adults that if he says his head hurts, it hurts. We don’t question him or tell him that there are only 10 minutes left until mom picks him up. He needs them immediately. That also meant training a 5-year-old that only HE knows what’s happening in his brain, and it’s up to him to advocate for his own health.

There are times though, that no matter what, a migraine strikes that will not be silenced.

Henry at the CMH Headache Treatment Center with an external nerve stimulation device on his forehead. Or as we like to call it, “the migraine robot.”

For that, we have been so grateful for the Headache Treatment Center at Children’s Mercy. During the week, we can get same-day treatment when medication fails. The clinic is headache friendly with soundproof rooms and blackout shades for reduced light. A wide variety of treatments can be given including IV infusions, external trigeminal nerve stimulation, biofeedback, acupuncture and more. When the choice is heading to a loud and bright ER or suffering in pain at home, the latter is often more appealing. The Headache Treatment Center gives us the option for relief, which means missing less school and getting much needed sleep.

Tweaking pain meds and adjusting prevention strategies is a constant as his triggers and lifestyle change (hello, virtual school). We limit screen time, encourage good sleep with melatonin and push water all day long. We pray that he’ll outgrow them and live an adult life migraine free.

Our team at Children’s Mercy has given us the knowledge, strategies and education to continue to advocate for Henry for however long is needed.


This post is sponsored by Children’s Mercy

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Sarah grew up in Manhattan, Kansas (Go Cats!), she moved to Minnesota where she met her husband, Shea. Realizing how much she hated snow in May, she convinced him to move to Kansas City in 2010. Together they have lived in Midtown, Waldo, the Plaza, and now Overland Park. Sarah is mom to 10-year-old, Henry, 7-year-old Clark and 5-year-old Lucy. She has her master’s in urban administration and is passionate about making Kansas City a more equitable and supportive community. In between the crazy, she likes to drink coffee, run, hike, travel as much as possible, and experience all things Kansas City!